corker #5: Tim Kiladze! Tim and I met through our work in youth leadership conferences. After going through business school at McGill, and landing a six-figure salary in a job on Bay Street (Canada’s Wall Street), he quit. He enrolled in the journalism program at Columbia and is now a business journalist for The Globe and Mail. Tim’s career switch is a perfect example of his gusto in my opinion. He is committed to making a dent in this world and is following his heart along the way. What a corker!
After ten years as a social worker, Brené Brown came to one sweeping conclusion: social connection is what humans live for.
It’s strange, then, that so many people never experience it. They may call their friends besties, and they may even get married, but they know they never experience any deep, core-shaking bonds.
Through her research, Brené realized it’s because they’re afraid to open themselves up. Conversely, the people with deep bonds have the courage to be imperfect. By accepting their vulnerability, and by appreciating that they are a work in progress, they open themselves to a more fulfilling life.
Brené soon saw the relationship between shame and connection. Shame, she realized, is the fear of disconnection. The fear that if someone finds out your deepest, darkest secrets, they’ll abandon you.
Here’s what I’ve learned: our flaws are our best parts. The people who knock us for them are simply terrified of their own. Ignore them. By opening yourself up, you let people see all of you, and the more they see, the more they realize you’re just like them.
That’s what creates the best bond possible.
Check out her TED Talk here:
- Tim
More musing from the corker series:
corker #1: Steph Corker -The Remarkable Journey
corker #2: Mike Desjardins – Creating White Space
corker #3: Wesley George – Value and Motivation
corker #4: Adam Martin – A Plea With The Religious
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